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Susan Tolliday MBACP

Children and young people experience problems and difficulties at home, at school, and with friends. It is difficult for adults to talk about their problems and concerns, this is also true for children.

As a parent or caregiver, you may have concerns about the child or children in your family, and can sometimes feel that you don’t know how to help or where to start. Giving the problem or problems a name, and identifying what it is that needs to change, is a great place to start.

In an initial assessment with children, I like to see the parent or parents together with the child. Not only does this make it more comfortable for the child, it can also help them to have a spokesperson to support them. As the child becomes more familiar with the counselling process they may prefer to see the counsellor alone, but this is their choice.

I would advise a minimum of six sessions to explore what is happening, when it is happening, how the child would like it to be, and working on goal setting and achievement. It might take longer but that is okay too.

The tools I use are solution focused, transactional analysis, and systemic therapy, which tend to look at the here and now, and the future, rather than focusing on what has gone wrong in the past, so what can we do differently today and tomorrow, not what should we have done.

My Approach To Counselling